Was chatting to a friend this morning. Topic reached on the tragic love story of another friend of us. He is QUITE close, but I, myself, doubt that our closeness are to the extent that we all really know him. And I could easily answer that doubt. I choose not to go to far in this case.
But I just doubt that the guy's insistence to go for the girl is worthy enough? Let me make up a similar scenario:
"They are together, but people just cannot see that they ARE together. The guy (Mr. G) just loves the girl (Ms. G) so much. While, Mr. G is easily satisfied with the every little-nice-sweet treatement he gets from Ms. G, but Ms. G is just still childish, does not know how to appreciate it. What Mr. G can do is: sharing his story sadly, asking for opinion, and nothing is changed in their relationship. Mr. G tries anyhing he can to 'please' Ms. G, anything. Again, nothing is changed, nothing. Times flies, and time for Ms. G to make thing straight. End of this relationship. Pain and Dissapointment. In fact, it should be End of Misery.
Time heals almost everything, but scar remains. Scar's always reminded Mr. G of Ms. G. Now, Mr. G, again, in confused state: amid in fears of regular dissapointment, he wanna put more effort to chase back Ms. G, no matters whatever it takes."
Really a sad love story indeed. When every detail of the story is put in, it is just tragic. But how would you handle this kind of situation? Keep in mind, people who are in the situation, will hardly see the truth, they are blinded by too many sweet and misery. There are only two things in their mind in denying the truth, the truth is too angelic for their misery or the truth is too distressing for their happiness. So I kinda understand Mr. G's feeling.
In my very clear state now, (might be wrong as am not in their shoes) logically thinking...
Ms. G should never gives any hope while she can said "I like you, but it's just impossible between two of us". It is a false hope.
Mr. G should see with his heart, but he still needs to think with his brain with all the suffer he had, and no good brught, is it worthy enough to sacrifice more things? He probably knows that the end that they had met has been a good start for him. But, it is just too much love in him left for her. Is this what so called as love unselfishly?
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How to love unselfishly?
Sit down, and try to observe the reasons we love another. And for all the less wholesome reasons identified, understand them and forgive them.
Then try again to love wholesomely.
Keep forgiving and keep trying, and keep forgiving and keep trying...
(This is not intended for the guy you mentioned. As a matter of fact, I don't know how can this be relevant.) =P
Cw
In fact, it's relevant. Because that guy is keep forgiving and keep trying endlessly.
From ur definition, he is loving unselfishly. =)
No such thing as selfish or Unselfish love. Love is LOVE. The rest is conditional-kindness. As for me, I have been there, done it, bought the T-shirt.
I surrender to Guru Sumant who say when you destroy your EGO then you'll love yourself and life is LOVEly.
OM Shanti. Shanti.
Hi Lauren, sweet definition and understanding of "Love" you have there. =D
Ego is the reason why many people love selfishly, 'conditionally', asking more and more, I suppose. Sad to say that most people still have our ego with us, as it's been culture, the one that we create ourselves.
If there really WERE really selfish and unselfish love, then we should be grateful that there still people who love unselfishly, love without asking something in return. Again it's an "IF" statement, to easily understand that Universe always provides fine balance, while bad thing let us realizes how we should appreciate good that comes to us.
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