I once read a writer saying that he writes well not because he is better than others but because he feels more than others. One of an example, how hardship in life, brings the more beautiful things that we could witness, read this article, a man recreates photos with daughter after losing his wife.
Anyway, there is little things to do with what am about to write. That was just a random thought. :p
My parents have my sister and me. I have them, people who I treasure, for the past 27 years and their worth is getting bigger with days. Recently, I was in an argument with an aunt, who insisted that when a woman is married to someone, she should put the husband's family above anything else. I am definitely not all in for this thing. For me, if someone wants respect, they got to earn it. Moreover, both families should be equally important. They worth the same! My mom was there, didn't utter anything. Then, about a month ago, we attended a wedding reception. The MC was saying something that rhymes in Chinese, it was saying something like: A girl is like a 'princess' in her house, while she is married ('out'), she is the 'xiao' xi fu (literally translated as 'small' in law).
Then out of no where, my mom was saying: "Hear that? when you are in someone else's family you are the 'xiao' xi fu." On a split second, I was thinking that it's unexpected from her. She has been one of the tough lady that I ever know, I would expect her to be a type of person who demands for equality between woman and man. She works as hard as my dad! For her, girls don't belong only in the kitchen. In her time, that's something rare. One day I am going to write about her story, how she wanted so bad to go for higher education (equal to the current junior high school), but given no chance.
Anyway, I think about it from time to time for the past few weeks, then I realize the difference between my mom and me. She is selfless. She still holds the Chinese culture well, in a good way, moderate amount! She wants the best out of us, her daughters, be respected and loved by someone, yet she knows well that we are responsible to make that happen. We cannot be the common 'contemporary-daughter-in-law'. We should realize how the daughter in law now differ from the one from the 70s'.
Now do you know why I love my parents so much? They do not even have the bachelor degree that's said to be the key to success nowadays, but they live just fine, they live good, even a whole lot better than some of us! Lesson learned, Mom~
One last thing I would like to remember, last week during our conversation, she said: "Your dad loves his wife and children well..." I am so blessed to be in this family.
I love you so much, Mom~
Then out of no where, my mom was saying: "Hear that? when you are in someone else's family you are the 'xiao' xi fu." On a split second, I was thinking that it's unexpected from her. She has been one of the tough lady that I ever know, I would expect her to be a type of person who demands for equality between woman and man. She works as hard as my dad! For her, girls don't belong only in the kitchen. In her time, that's something rare. One day I am going to write about her story, how she wanted so bad to go for higher education (equal to the current junior high school), but given no chance.
Anyway, I think about it from time to time for the past few weeks, then I realize the difference between my mom and me. She is selfless. She still holds the Chinese culture well, in a good way, moderate amount! She wants the best out of us, her daughters, be respected and loved by someone, yet she knows well that we are responsible to make that happen. We cannot be the common 'contemporary-daughter-in-law'. We should realize how the daughter in law now differ from the one from the 70s'.
Now do you know why I love my parents so much? They do not even have the bachelor degree that's said to be the key to success nowadays, but they live just fine, they live good, even a whole lot better than some of us! Lesson learned, Mom~
One last thing I would like to remember, last week during our conversation, she said: "Your dad loves his wife and children well..." I am so blessed to be in this family.
I love you so much, Mom~
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